How to be a World Influencer
Parisian. That’s the look I was going for that Halloween when I first started dating my man. We were going to a Halloween party, and "What on earth am I going to wear?" was the question of the hour! I already owned a beret, so when I found the cutest bell bottom pants with the Eiffel tower on them at the Goodwill my mind was made up.
I would go as a cool Parisian girl and catch the eye of the cute Peruvian boy.
For some reason, back before eyelashes were all the rage, I decided to wear false eyelashes to complete the look. Thinking back, I’m not sure what made me decide to wear false eyelashes.
But, it was Halloween, and what I didn’t normally wear seemed fair game for my outfit.
Yet, with Halloween right around the corner, I’ve been pondering,
"How does a Jesus girl choose a fun and different outfit for all her Halloween festivities in today’s world?"
The world will tell us to be daring, to push the envelope, to explore any and all options. But is that healthy and wise for our hearts and minds? More so, does it bring glory to the Lord?
Therefore, when trying to decide "What (Not) to Wear" I resort to my tried and true wardrobe questions:
1. What is my motive for wearing this outfit? Obviously with it being Halloween, it’s going to be something out of the norm, like Princess Leia or Maid Marion. Fun and innocent. Attention is drawn to the costume because it represents something memorable and fun, but I try to keep in mind that the focus needs to be on the character, not my body.
2. Is there a red flag in my spirit? Every Jesus girl who’s pursuing a deeper walk with the Lord knows the feeling. That check in our spirit. That “Hmm… should I really wear this?” feeling. I honestly have to wrestle my flesh down sometimes and make sure I’m listening to the Spirit. Even when it’s something really cute and looks “oh, so good on me,” I make myself choose to heed the red flag and put it away.
3. Will this cause "my brother" to stumble? There are certain things I’ll wear for my man’s eyes only when we’re alone, things that cause his pulse to rise and fill his visual Rolodex. (For Women Only, ch. 7) However, I don’t want to load another man’s visual Rolodex. I don’t want to cause one of my brothers in the Lord to stumble in his walk because of something I choose to wear. This is tricky as I don’t know what other believer’s trigger points are, but if I’m in doubt, I refer back to #2.
4. Looking back, will I regret this choice? In the excitement of the moment, our flesh can convince us it’s ok to push the envelope, to be a little edgy. It’s Halloween, after all. But I like to ask myself forward thinking questions like, “Will I regret this later?” "Will photos on social media tonight embarrass me tomorrow?" If the answer is "Yes!", then I tell myself “No!”
5. Lastly, does it bring glory to the Lord? Our God is a God of life and beauty and goodness and truth. The world is full of death and ugliness and evil and lies. "Does my outfit point to life and beauty?" "Does my outfit point to the goodness of the Lord?" If not, I choose something different.
I have no idea what I'll dress up as this year. With three kiddos in the house, the field is wide open. lol. Yet, if I want to impact the world for Jesus, I need to remember Sean McCabe's quote,
"You will never influence the world by trying to be like it." Or for the sake of this post,
"You will never influence the world by dressing up for Halloween as the world does."
I know the world is going to hate my list of "What (Not) to Wear" questions. They’re going to say it’s too narrow and restrictive and prudish and backward. However, I don’t answer to the world, I answer to the King of the World, Jesus. May He smile and be pleased as I laugh and play in whatever Halloween costume I choose to wear this year, with or without false eyelashes.
Be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors.
Then even if they accuse you of doing wrong,
they will see your honorable behavior,
and they will give honor to God when he judges the world.
1 Peter 2:12
So as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord,
fully pleasing to Him:
bearing fruit in every good work
and increasing in the knowledge of God;
Jesus Girl. Wife. Momma. Student. Teacher. Confidante. Lover of milky coffee, dark chocolate, deep talks, lively laughter, and a front row seat on the beach at sunrise.