Disclaimer: I am not a counselor and I do not have any professional advice to give. This isn’t the first or probably the last article you will read on this topic either. My intentions are to be vulnerable on an issue that is stealing our marriages, our kids and our friendships. I am just a Christian woman that wants to rescue my family from an evil world and I hope to do so by opening God’s Word and through my actions that I live out daily in my home.
My name is Laura and I spend entirely too much time on my smartphone. Ugh...I have never been to a counseling session, but this sure feels like one! There it is...true transparency! It’s something that I’m sure not proud of. I recently sat through a session on technology and the impact it has on our kids, and also just the other night had a conversation with another family about “screen time”. In both instances, I left feeling completely convicted because I know, the problem begins with me! Out of everyone in my home, I am the worst one about spending time on my phone (and my three year old runs a close second).
I don’t have to tell you that our world is getting scarier everyday. You can turn on the news or read the headlines and see for yourself. So, it got me thinking, how are we failing this generation? How can we take back what Satan is stealing from us, one marriage or one kid at a time? How do we change the trajectory?
Studies have shown that the biggest difference in our society today versus five plus years ago is “screen time”. Whether it be t.v., video games, social media or surfing the web, we are the most connected we have ever been and also the loneliest. It’s affecting our social skills, emotions, moods and functionality.
USA Today released a study that was performed by researchers from San Diego and Florida State universities. They discovered that nearly half of the teens that received five or more hours of screen time each day had experienced thoughts of suicide or prolonged periods of hopelessness or sadness. That is extremely scary for me and makes me want to make a change!
I am guilty of appeasing my three year old with his iPad or turning on a movie so I can get some things done. Just last week I wrote about being up to my elbows in chocolate and strawberries. Guess what my boy was doing the majority of the time...watching lots of PJ Masks and Dude Perfect! That’s not normal days in our house, but it sure does happen. Thankfully, my soon to be ten year old is not consumed by a device and I know changes need to be made now so she doesn’t fall prey to what so many of us already have.
I am going to let you inside of my head these past few days (that may be scary! LOL) on steps I want to take in my home to begin to overcome this epidemic. I am including scripture that I can claim and even write out so I can see it on a daily basis.
Hebrews 4:12 “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”
2 Timothy 3:16-17 “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.”
Ephesians 5:15-17 “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”
Psalm 39: 4-5 “O Lord, make me know my end and what is the measure of my days; let me know how fleeting I am! Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you. Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath! Selah”
1 Chronicles 16:11 “Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his presence continually!”
The truth is, my kids will mimic what they see me doing. More than anything, I want them to give God their first and their best, to practice good time management and to be present in the moment. So, it begins with me...I set the example. I would like to challenge you to do these things this week and see if the dynamics in your home change.
Today’s post is basically an open journal into something I struggle with, but I am certain I am not the only one! I would love for you to take the challenge and post how your household adapts to the changes. I don’t want my husband or my kids to say that mom’s most prized possession was her cell phone and I am guessing you don’t want that. I don’t want my kids to think having a device in their face is the norm either. Let’s be different, let’s be intentional. We don’t know what tomorrow holds and we sure don’t want to say we spent more time interested in others lives than the very people that we live under roof with.
Laura is a pastor's wife, mom to two crazy fun kids, part-time marketing director, loves hanging out in her community and building relationships...oh and loves to laugh!
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