Part 2: Rites of Passage
Last week was the eve of our daughter's tenth birthday and I talked about things that we do to help point her to Christ. If you missed it, you can read it here.
Teaching our kids how to manage life starts in our homes. We want to teach our kids the Biblical view, so when the world begins throwing it’s view at them, they will have a firm foundation to stand on. It’s scary raising kids in the world today. We want to encourage you to be intentional with your kids and point them to Christ. It's a scary world out there and our kids should find comfort, safety and direction in their homes.
My husband has a friend that began a ministry called Parent Ministry. It's a resource for Student Pastors to help engage parents in the Youth Ministry. Through him, we were introduced to the “Rites of Passage," and we knew we wanted to implement it with our own kids when the time was right. We feel ten years old is a big deal, so we decided to start this year! My husband and I feel it’s very important for our daughter to know that she is loved and supported by her entire family and there is NOTHING she can do that would ever make the Lord or us love her any less. Here is what the Rites of Passage looked like for our daughter's tenth birthday:
Rites of Passage
This year on our daughter's tenth birthday, she requested a “fancy” dinner. The planning began; She was most excited to choose the cake that her Maw would make, then dinner reservations were made, family invitations were sent, and all of the intricate details were chosen. She picked the fanciest dress out of her closet, proudly pulled out her gold heels, her hair adorned with curls, and we added a touch of makeup...because, well, she can be a girly girl and it’s her tenth birthday!
Ahead of time, I asked our family to choose a characteristic about her and a prayer/scripture to speak over her. It’s neat how all of this played out. As we were planning to make this a special night for her, she was planning as well. She wrote a speech and picked ten Scriptures to recite, one for each year. It was a beautiful night of our family encouraging her that she is loved, she is supported and she is prayed for.
We are creating a book with each family member's picture, prayer and scripture so our daughter can always go back and remember what was prayed over her on this day. We will continue the Rites of Passage at age thirteen, sixteen, eighteen, and marriage. Every year will look different since the season of life will be different.
There is not a textbook way to incorporate the Rites of Passage. It can be very simple or as elaborate as you want to make it. Every child is different and it needs to be suited to their personality. For instance, our daughter is a major extrovert and wanted a fancy dinner with lots of people present. Another child may not like big crowds, so you may do something for them completely different. Whatever it may be, being intentional on speaking truth to their heart, and making the big milestones important and memorable, that's the ultimate goal!
I want to leave you with Scriptures that we can pray over our children. There are so many, but I am just listing a few here. Include your child's name into the Scripture:
3 John 1:4 - "I have no greater joy than to hear that ________is walking in the truth."
Luke 2:52 - May _______increase in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man.
Deuteronomy 6: 5-9 - "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to _________, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates."
By Faith She has written other blogs pertaining to raising kids to love the Lord. Be watching for more By Faith Kids Bible Studies coming soon too!
Raising Little Girls with Big Faith
By Faith Kids
May we walk well in the calling the Lord has placed upon our lives. To bring our children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
Laura is a pastor's wife, mom to two crazy fun kids, part-time marketing director, loves hanging out in her community and building relationships...oh and loves to laugh!