“Now the man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:25 proclaims. Such beauty, such freedom is found in one of God’s first gifts to the human race, sex. Naked and no shame in the same life-giving sentence. Yet since the fall of man, shame and sex are unwanted bedfellows. The #metoo movement is just a small glimpse into how the evil one has splashed jarring paint all over the canvas of the beautiful picture stated in the opening line.
But shame comes from the pit. Remember the very first thing Adam and Eve did after they ate the forbidden fruit? Yup, they covered themselves with fig leaf aprons. (Genesis 3:7) Covered what God called good. And ever since, sin has sent its lies like tentacles thru the centuries of marriage beds to the present day.
But this is a Christmas post. Like the angel gladly proclaimed to the shepherds the night of Christ’s birth, “Don’t be afraid!” he said. “I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people.” Good news! (Luke 2:10) We can use some good news when it comes to sex. Christ came to conquer sin’s grip on humankind and that includes the marriage bed.
Part of the good news, my friend, is that the baby swaddled in a manger grew up! He loved and freed those shackled by sin! And when sin nailed Him to a cross, and killed Him, God’s power overcame death and defeated it! Woohoo! That’s good news that should bring great joy to your precious heart. And also to your marriage bed. Remember the opening line of this post, “and they felt no shame.”
It’s time we take the shame and send it back to the pit. It’s time we take off the world’s smeared glasses and allow the beauty of God’s Word to show us the gift married sex is. Look at some of the gems in Scripture about it:
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your love is better than wine; Song of Solomon 1:2
His mouth is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way.
Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend. Song of Solomon 5:16
I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me. Song of Solomon 7:10
Those are the PG-rated ones. Lol. You can mine other PG-13 gems yourself. (BlueletterBible.com). The Song of Solomon is chock full of vivid descriptions with no shame attached. This is God’s heart toward married sex, naked and not ashamed.
Sweet one, I wish we were sitting in my living room with a mug of our favorite hot beverages. Please hear my heart on this. This Christmas, it’s time to allow the baby Jesus who grew up and conquered death, conquer whatever shame crawls into bed with you.
- I’m sorry for whatever was done to you sexually that still cloaks you in shame and fear. That ugliness broke God’s heart, also. Leave the consequences to Him. Trust me; He’s fighting for you in ways you can’t see. (Exodus 14:14) Dear one, He wants to make all things new for you, including sexual intimacy in your marriage. He loves you that much.
- I’m sorry for whatever you did sexually that still mocks and shames you. That shame is shackling you from living in the freedom Christ came, died, and rose again for. Ask for forgiveness and allow Him to wash you and make you new. He wants you to live free, to live shameless in your intimacy with your husband. He loves you that much.
Phew! This post has gone in a direction I had not planned. Lol. But that is the amazing way of our God and King. He wants freedom in every area of our lives, including our sex lives. So here is my Christmas gift to you; a few resources and websites from some Jesus girls who are much more eloquent and savvy in this area than I. Check them out. Remember, no shame. Glean what you can to heal and add spice and life to your marriage bed.
May this Christmas find you able to live “Now the man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:25) Woohoo! "Glory to God in the highest and on earth peace to men on whom His favor rests!" (Luke 2:14) Merry Christmas to you and your man.
Books written by Christian married women:
1. Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask about Sex by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
2. Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh
3. Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery
4. Return to the Garden: Embracing God's Design for Sexuality by Kay Arthur
Websites written by Christian married women (disclaimer: as of this writing, these resources are sound and based on Biblical truth. We will try to maintain a check on them to be sure they still believe and advice as we see sound and safe.):
1. Bonny’s an upbeat Christian who writes for the low sex-drive wife. She blends Scripture, science, and musings from her own journey to show that low sex-drive is not a permanent condition. https://www.oysterbed7.com
2. Gaye's passion is encouraging married women to create joy and intimacy in their marriages. She believes that small steps can lead to big changes, and that women armed with knowledge and a plan can transform their hurried, hectic lives. https://calmhealthysexy.com
3. J. uses a biblical perspective and a blunt sense of humor to foster godly sexuality. She holds a master’s degree in counseling, yet it’s her personal story of redemption that fuels her passion for passion. http://hotholyhumorous.com
4. Chris encourages Christian women who want to work on the sexual intimacy in their marriages. After many years of a sexually difficult marriage, she and her husband Doug (aka Big Guy) have reclaimed the passion and intimacy God had intended for them all along. https://forgivenwife.com
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